Motherhood is forever

Becoming a mother changes a woman forever. Once it happens, there is no turning back. I believe you become a mother the minute you find out you're pregnant. At that moment, you realize that your body is sustaining a life inside. You have the decision to take care of yourself so that the life has the best chance of survival, or you can decide to make choices selfishly, putting your baby at risk or even death if so desire to do so. You constantly have part of your heart beating inside of another human being that is attached to you for eternity. Even if you decide to "separate" yourself from that little human, you will always be that child's mother, no matter if you live or die or that child lives or dies. The child could live to be 99 years old or die at 24 days in the womb and you will still be that child's mother, no matter what events occur. Why is this you ask? Life is sacred. Once life is created, a soul has come into being. A spirit of a person (soul) is so special, we cannot even wrap our minds around the fact that the soul lasts for eternity.

Living the life of a mother is a choice however. So many in this world do not want the responsibility of being a mother. It means you have to put someone else first and yourself last. In our materialistic society where humanism is encouraged, many girls and women have been taught that self is first. It does not matter so much that the children are placed on the "back burner," it matters that you get your money, your time, your possessions, your looks, your feelings etc... Well, what about the child?

From the time I was a little girl, I've always wanted to be a mother. There was no question about it, either I was going to have my own children or adopt. I had dreamed and planned for years how I would raise my sons and daughters with my future husband. I am so thankful to now have a husband who shares the desires of my heart to raise children for the glory of God. We did not choose to have children to "show them off" as if they are a status symbol. It amazes me that so many parents get trapped into this thinking of keeping up with the Jones Family. I saw this happen repeatedly at the private school I taught at. Each family had to "one up the other" using their children to do so. Bragging about the offspring's abilities, showing off the beauty and talents, denying that their children had issues and having the mindset that the kids were perfect and could do no wrong. Buying the children off instead of spending time with them made me feel sorry for my students. These children did not know what it was like to spend lengthy quality time with their parents. Love does not grow from attaining material possessions or money. Love grows from the time a parent spends with their child doing things together, while at the same time, training the child.